So there is an Aesop's fable about the ant and the grasshopper. Throughout the summer the ant worked and toiled and saved up food for the winter. The grasshopper sang in the field and ate what he wanted and laughed and the ant kept working so hard. The grasshopper tried to get ant to stop working and play for a little while. This only made the ant work harder.
Well the summer turned to fall, and fall turned to winter, and it was cold outside. The ant could now chill in her house and enjoy her feast of saved food. And the grasshopper died of cold and hunger. The moral of the story, "It is wise to worry about tomorrow today."
We are in a recession right now. But y'all all know that tax time is about to be here in a month. What y'all wanna bet that some silly ass person is gonna take that tax refund check and go to Vegas or buy some new cothes? What y'all wanna bet that some broke ass person is about to go drop bout $200 on an outfit for New Year's, but their furniture isn't fully paid for? What y'all wanna bet that same person is also gonna spend $100 to get into the club and $300 for bottle service at the club? This my friends is an example of the grasshopper mentality.
Then there are the ants. The people that are willing to get that refund check and pay down some back due bills. The people that instead of partying for hundreds of dollars, are throwing a get together at the house. The people that don't have to have the latest clothes, if it means putting it on a credit card. In this economic climate, we should all be ants...but you know as well as I that folks are not looking 2 days ahead, let alone a full year.
I take my lunch to work erry-day, even though I miss eating out. I forgo my love of Starbuck's Caramel Macchiato, for a simple cup of coffee that I brew at home. I have given up my mani and pedi days...sighing softly, becuz it is not in the budget. I have decided to be an ant. I already put in my plans to pay things down, Down, DOWN and the only way to honestly do that is to sacrifice. Fun can come later. Are you an ant or are you a grasshopper?
http://www.longlongtimeago.com/llta_fables_antgrasshopper.html
Monday, December 22, 2008
Thursday, December 4, 2008
Quit Making Excuses!!!
I am irrtitated about this whole Plaxico Burress situation going on in New York. Number 1, I am irritated with him being a dumbass millionaire without a lick of free common sense. Number 2, I am tired of people making damn excuses for his behavior. I got this frustrated with the whole Mike Vick situation when that was going on. I am so over it...ugh! I am so over the likes of Pacman Jones, Larry Johnson, Travis Henry, Tank Johnson. Why can't they just use their talents and do their jobs? Why so much extra. Why the lack of critical thinking?
I read alot of news and blogs and general attitude about Plax is that he is dumb for shooting himself. What really, REALLY gets me is when people start making excuses and rationalizing his behavior. He did something illiegal. He was carrying an unlicensed, concealed weapon in a state that says you get 3.5 years for doing so.
So to playing devil's advocate...what should Plaxico's punishment be? Should the DA and mayor just say, never mind ur rich. Never mind, ur a Giant. My bad, u had a tough upbringing. Just playing, u caught the game winning touchdown pass in the Super Bowl. Are these good reasons to let someone off the hook? HELL NAW!!!
Why is it that hard to understand that there are consequences to ur actions. You can't just claim that you didn't know the new law existed. That doesn't hold up in the court room. You can't claim, well Sean Taylor was just killed just last year. That just gives everyone the green light to start carrying a concealed weapon. What if he had shot someone else. He was drinking that night. Thank God he only shot himself. But you know what, other folks are going down or may be going down becuz of his stupid ass decision. The club that knowingly let him in, his teammate Antonio Pierce, and the doctor that didn't report the shooting.
Now I must ask the question...was it worth it?Was the cost of foregoing a bodyguard worth the millions that you are now giving up? Was the night on the town so fun that is was worth putting other people's livelihoods in jeopardy? He obviously wasn't thinking pass that moment. I HATE STUPIDITY. STUPIDITY IS DANGEROUS ON ALL LEVELS.
I read alot of news and blogs and general attitude about Plax is that he is dumb for shooting himself. What really, REALLY gets me is when people start making excuses and rationalizing his behavior. He did something illiegal. He was carrying an unlicensed, concealed weapon in a state that says you get 3.5 years for doing so.
So to playing devil's advocate...what should Plaxico's punishment be? Should the DA and mayor just say, never mind ur rich. Never mind, ur a Giant. My bad, u had a tough upbringing. Just playing, u caught the game winning touchdown pass in the Super Bowl. Are these good reasons to let someone off the hook? HELL NAW!!!
Why is it that hard to understand that there are consequences to ur actions. You can't just claim that you didn't know the new law existed. That doesn't hold up in the court room. You can't claim, well Sean Taylor was just killed just last year. That just gives everyone the green light to start carrying a concealed weapon. What if he had shot someone else. He was drinking that night. Thank God he only shot himself. But you know what, other folks are going down or may be going down becuz of his stupid ass decision. The club that knowingly let him in, his teammate Antonio Pierce, and the doctor that didn't report the shooting.
Now I must ask the question...was it worth it?Was the cost of foregoing a bodyguard worth the millions that you are now giving up? Was the night on the town so fun that is was worth putting other people's livelihoods in jeopardy? He obviously wasn't thinking pass that moment. I HATE STUPIDITY. STUPIDITY IS DANGEROUS ON ALL LEVELS.
Monday, December 1, 2008
Miss Independent
So Ne-yo has a song out talking about how he loves a girl because she has her own stuff. She is educated. She has her own house and a paid off car. That is fine and good, but is this really the reality? Do guys really want a completely independent woman?
I am an independent woman. I have my own place. My little scraper of a car is almost paid off. I am working on my Master's degree. But this is not my end all be all. I do not run around talking about alla my credentials and alla my bullet points that make me fab all the time, not that I am not proud of my accomplishments. The thing is, many women do. I think this could be part of the cycle that keeps Black men and Black women at odds with each other. (I know that Black men need to work out their own issues. I am chatting about us women right now.)
Y'all know that you have heard many a times, there are not enough good Black men. They are all in jail or gay or with white women. This cannot be the case. I have run into quite a few good men. I have a few good Black guy friends who are single. What the question should be, why aren't the good Black men and women finding each other?This is definitely my opinion, but I think that sometimes when we start to get more and more credentials, we develop an attitude of superiority. I can honestly say that I think I am damn catch...the difference is how we portray this attitude. You can have all the degrees in the world. You can have a nice car and house. You can be a baller, shot caller. But if you have a stank ass attitude, yo ass gonna be by yourself.I live out here in Chicago. And I have seen some stank ass females. I guess coming from a small country town where you say "hi" to people and smile, I am a little more sensitive. But summa these women out hurrr...whew, I can see why they single. Justa mean muggin, and bitchy, and bitter. And this is coming from a woman. I hate to hear what the guys are actually saying about them.
In my opinion, women should have their own. They should be able to stand without a man if need be, but recognize that you have to let the man be the man. So many women are sooo strong they think that they don't need a man for anything. I can raise my kids. I can pay my own bills. I can do this and do that...GREAT! Do that. But wouldn't that be a whole lot easier with a partner? Shit, I am tired of doing everything by my damn self. I cannot give myself a massage when I had a hard day at work. I want to be cuddled if I am feeling sick. I want sex if I am in the mood. There are just some things that that damn degree and car and house won't give you.
I am an independent woman. I have my own place. My little scraper of a car is almost paid off. I am working on my Master's degree. But this is not my end all be all. I do not run around talking about alla my credentials and alla my bullet points that make me fab all the time, not that I am not proud of my accomplishments. The thing is, many women do. I think this could be part of the cycle that keeps Black men and Black women at odds with each other. (I know that Black men need to work out their own issues. I am chatting about us women right now.)
Y'all know that you have heard many a times, there are not enough good Black men. They are all in jail or gay or with white women. This cannot be the case. I have run into quite a few good men. I have a few good Black guy friends who are single. What the question should be, why aren't the good Black men and women finding each other?This is definitely my opinion, but I think that sometimes when we start to get more and more credentials, we develop an attitude of superiority. I can honestly say that I think I am damn catch...the difference is how we portray this attitude. You can have all the degrees in the world. You can have a nice car and house. You can be a baller, shot caller. But if you have a stank ass attitude, yo ass gonna be by yourself.I live out here in Chicago. And I have seen some stank ass females. I guess coming from a small country town where you say "hi" to people and smile, I am a little more sensitive. But summa these women out hurrr...whew, I can see why they single. Justa mean muggin, and bitchy, and bitter. And this is coming from a woman. I hate to hear what the guys are actually saying about them.
In my opinion, women should have their own. They should be able to stand without a man if need be, but recognize that you have to let the man be the man. So many women are sooo strong they think that they don't need a man for anything. I can raise my kids. I can pay my own bills. I can do this and do that...GREAT! Do that. But wouldn't that be a whole lot easier with a partner? Shit, I am tired of doing everything by my damn self. I cannot give myself a massage when I had a hard day at work. I want to be cuddled if I am feeling sick. I want sex if I am in the mood. There are just some things that that damn degree and car and house won't give you.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)
