Monday, October 6, 2008

what had happen was...

so now i get it when people say, "well it just happened." here is my story...

i have a girlfriend, J. and a few months ago J introduced me to her friend T. me and T exchanged numbers that night, but didn't really call or hang out...i didn't even worry about calling T until J just wasn't available in my time of need. anyways, long story short, me and T having been hanging out and have become good friends and J is no where in the picture. me and T have a lot in common. we are both in school. we both are very stable and kinda predictable. and we get along very well.

i feel bad becuz i have become good friends with T and we hang out without J all the time, but J is never available. she is always cancelling our plans and she is just not available anymore. T is available and consistent.

i feel like i am cheating on my friend. but it just happened, well kinda. it started out with a simple movie outing...now it has progressed into studying at coffee shops together. and neither one of us has told J about these outings. i am gonna hope that she doesn't find out. but feel like we are growing apart anyways.

so i admit, i am cheating on my friend, with a new shiny friend. and it just happened...i didn't mean to become good friends like we did. i feel soooo guilty though.

3 comments:

Summer G said...

**BTW, i found your blog from your INSANELY analysis of the "dick in a tree" comment on YKYDAW today. I LMAO!!**

Okay so about this post...
I can relate to the feeling. I can feel wrong sometimes but only if you are being dishonest to the other friend (J?). Dont lie about whatever you're doing. It seems rational that you spend time studying and kickin' it with T if T is available and yall have similiar interests. But DO REMEMBER what caused you and J to become friends in the first place... What is it about her friendship that is worthwhile? Let THAT be the reason that you never diss J, or betray that friendship.

Its always fun to get a bright, shiny new friend that you can build with and have fun with... its almost like dating someone new (sans the sex) because you have new refreshing companionship. But remember that while you may be having tons of fun, fun is not the end-all-be-all of a stable, healthy friendship. AND it takes time to build trust and confidence in friends. You'll never truly know the value of you and T's friendship until the rubber meets the road and if you take it too fast and forget about J, you might end up regretting it.

Just my thoughts because hey, i've been there.

Hope you can visit my blog! Not nearly as entertaining as YKYDAW but still quite cool. :-)

TTYL and God bless..
SG

Don said...

Why feel bad? It's all apart of life. I remember when I used to think that my friends one year would be my friends forever.

Shiddd.

Listen babygirl, continue to enjoy yourself and make yourself happy. Aight...

Damn cheater. LOL.

BronxStateOfMind said...

Shit happens, you can't wait on someone when they have things in their life to take care of that dont connect to you.

Must your world stop?


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